PLEASE READ THIS (the whole linked article, if possible). By far, one of the best how-to-live articles I’ve come across recently.
(Excerpt) “Fuck your feelings. Sometimes, good things will make you feel bad. Sometimes, bad things will make you feel good. That doesn’t change the fact that they are good/bad. Sometimes, you will feel bad about feeling good about a bad thing and you will feel good about feeling bad about a good thi–you know what? Fuck it. Just fuck feelings.
This doesn’t mean you should ignore your feelings. Feelings are important. But they’re important not for the reasons we think they are. We think they’re important because they say something about us, about the world, and about our relationship with it. But they say none of these things. There’s no meaning attached to feelings. Sometimes you hurt for a good reason. Sometimes for a bad reason. And sometimes no reason at all. The hurt itself is neutral. The reason is separate.
The point is that you get to decide. And many of us have either forgotten or never realized that fact. But we decide what our pain means. Just as we decide what our successes expose.
And more often than not, any answer except one will tear you apart inside. And that answer is: nothing.”
SOME QUESTIONS (I look forward to your honest replies)….
QUESTION: What %￼ of your lifestyle is based on doing and possessing what you believe is right and think is necessary OR is just because you (at least temporarily) enjoy certain things and/or the sense of belonging in “tribe” with others who seem to enjoy aspects of the same lifestyle?
QUESTION: Do you ever experience shame of some sort when what you do isn’t in line with your core values of what you believe is right and think is necessary?
QUESTION: How often to you deal with any resulting shame through some form of denial (e.g., “oh, it’s not that big a deal”), rationalization (e.g., “I’ve got enough on my plate and there’s nothing I can do about it”), and/or distraction (e.g., “this is stressing me out; I’ll think about it later after I do this thing I like”)?
QUESTION: Do you ever wonder if you do some things at least some of the time that give you shame because at least some of your values are not as “good” (altruistic, empathetic, compassionate, societally and environmentally concerned) as you like to think that you are… or… that you’d like others in your “tribe” to think that you are.
QUESTION: What, if anything, about your lifestyle (or even the lifestyle you aspire to and have seemingly been working towards) would you be willing to give up to take actions truly based on what you believe is right and think is necessary?
QUESTION: Do any or all of these questions make you uncomfortable in any way (they do for me) and do you think your discomfort indicates that there is a gap between your core ethical values and your actual lifestyle choices (I can feel it in myself)?
QUESTION: What SPECIFICALLY do you think would make it easier for you (us, all of us) both as a society and as individually to address this so-common gap between our HIGHEST core values and our actions?
This coming weekend — Scott Smith and I are offering up a weekend Reiki intensive as we dig into the magic, practice + wisdom of Level 2.
There is still space if you are ready to join! Class will be in Mid-city/Los Angeles.
Queer centered. and we feed you all weekend.
DM with any questions you might have.
Tomorrow in Oakland!
Are you curious about healing with birds + plants?
I will be offering my Intro to Bird Medicine workshop at Queer Care: Holding at 4:30pm. It’s free!
Come by and get all chatty with the birds with me!
I’ll also be vending my Bird Essences, herbal essential oil candles and bird medicine amulets.
all the bird love <3
Let the chips fall where they may & thank the most ignorant among us! If you do not get the connection between my words & The Children’s Health Insurance Program, a refresher course in thinking may be necessary, but that, of course, is not a necessary requirement for voting in the United States of America!
LIVE: Tereza Lee, the “Original Dreamer” is risking arrest along other allies at Senator Schumer’s office in N.Y.C.! Tereza inspired the very first DREAM Act bill written in 2001 and has been fighting for it since than. It’s time for Schumer to pledge that he will do everything in his power to pass DREAM in the Omnibus Spending Bill. https://www.facebook.com/tereza.lee.5/videos/10214194396761112/
Poor Paul Ryan, He has to explain double standards of why it is OK to have rules about sexual harrassment, Roy Moore, and Trump. No, Paul Ryan, it is not OK. Clean out the house, senate, and fire Trump, then talk about sexual harrassment.
Otherwise, you are a part of the problem and not the solution.
Your lack of Christian values is showing when you support alleged Christian value people like Mooore and Trump. Support the women and men abused by powerful people, Paul, or you support the pervs. Your choice, you piece of lying, double standard…….(fill in the blanks)
Trump loves to brag about turn-out attendances. He loves to compare to Obama (and Trump is a loser). Now Trump is bragging about the Christmas tree lighting, but the internet compared his few numbers v Obama’s large numbers. And both had mild temperatures, so there is no excuse for Trump to have such small crowds.
My World famous Xanax-based movie rating system:
The less the Xanax, the better the film.
0 Xanax out of 5 for “Good Time” (2017) by the Safdie Brothers.
Wow. The best espresso shot of a bad day gone worse.
1/2 a Xanax out of 5 for “Nice Guys” (2016) directed by Shane Black (who originally acted in the 80s blockbuster “Predator” and will be helming the impending reboot), starring Ryan Gosling and Russell Crowe.
This movie was nuts. Was it a dark thriller, a slapstick comedy? A buddy-heist film? The weird brew leaves a satisfying taste.
I wrote this last year. I think it worthy of a re-post.
Here’s what’s on my mind, just my thoughts and I am no expert:
As politicians storm New Hampshire this week the hot topic is heroin addiction. Perhaps to them it is simply a hot topic, to many across America it is a devastating topic and a harsh reality. I sincerely commend and appreciate our law enforcement agencies in the area for their arrests and continuing investigations. But I also keep thinking the same thing: We need to focus on those that drive the “market” as much as we do those that provide the product.
Heroin has taken over small towns in such a way that it has changed the very fabric of society as a whole.
Addiction changes the brain. Someone once explained it to me this way “Opiates have this trick of “tickling” certain receptors in the brain in such a way that the pain of not having the drug exceeds the pain of consequences from the drug.”
Those plagued by addiction now are not what was once the version of an addict that had been planted in many of our minds. The addict can be a star athlete, family man, devoted mother, educated professional and so on. The starting point can be anywhere, but the end is still the same.
Addiction does not discriminate.
So to the politicians rallying with the cry of “We must do something to stop this!” Yes we must.
Maybe it would be a good idea to stop making it so difficult for those actually seeking help to get it. If someone wants to get medical and rehab treatment there should not be ridiculous wait times due to bureaucratic red tape and insurance company bickering. Get them in. Sort the payment out later. Their very lives depend on it.
The closing of mental health clinics and in patient services in many areas, I believe, has had its hand in the increase of addiction. To a person struggling through mental illness the availability of illicit drugs to quiet the noise they cannot control may seem the better option. Self-medicating. It is not the better option.
And last but not least; The families involved. People should not be made to feel ashamed because their child is in the throes of addiction. They can heap that guilt up in ways that you could never match. They don’t need any help in making them feel helpless and hopeless. Check out all the latest 10 off walmart grocery pickup – 50% OFF Promo codes & Discounts for 2017. Shop at Walmart for thousands of products like electronics, clothing, shoes, books, kitchen tools, etc. Keep updating the newest Walmart promo codes to take from 20% off on your shopping cart! Enjoy now